Communication in relationships is vital. When couples are having problems in a relationship, communication is the first thing to stop. It is often easier to just be quiet than to get mad. When rebuilding love and marriage relationships, just as communication was the first to stop, it now needs to be the first to start. This will require both individuals to let down their guard and pretty much throw caution to the wind. Healing in the relationship cannot start until you talk. Make an agreement that you will talk about anything and everything and that you will listen, really listen. This does not mean that you will agree with everything, which is perfectly fine.

However, if you do not agree, do not yell, but rather the two of you need to calmly discuss the issue and together work out a solution. This is hard work but within a very short time, you will both feel much better, individually and as a couple. Get into a habit of listening to what your mate is saying. Not the kind of listening that you do when you go out or sit at the dinner table, but a different kind of listening. Have you ever overheard your mate make a comment to a friend or family member about something they really want or want to do? Maybe you heard your boyfriend or husband tell a friend that they would love a certain tool. For no reason whatsoever, make a special effort to get that for him. You might have heard your girlfriend or wife mention a spa that they would love to try. Again, without any reason, surprise her. This shows that your mate is really paying attention to things important to you.

You may not think this is important, but think back to the first time you saw your mate. More than likely, the first interaction was through eye contact. If you are having dinner during the holidays with a large group of family and friends, glance over to your mate and give them a seductive wink, or if your mate is giving a speech and you are there to offer support, attentively look at them, making directly eye contact and offer a warm reassuring smile. Eyes can say a lot! There are lots of relationship resources online that can enhance and enrich your relationship. Many of these are free.