In my experience, there are three things that we very much need to learn, yet are never taught in school:

1. How to manage money.

2. How to be a great parent.

3. How to find the love of your life.

The magical myth-tery tour

So where did we get the notion that all we have to do is wait around for the right person to show up? It's almost as if we expect the right person to come knocking on our front door one day and introduce themselves.

I remember sitting in a Sunday School class and being told that we did not have to look for the right one for us, because one day we would look across the church and there they would be.

Yeah right.

I think we get this notion from fairy tales, popular songs, romance novels and movies.

The results of this myth

We passively sit around, waiting for the right person to show up, complaining the whole entire time.

What to do insteadand what you do not want. Scout out the world around you for what you want.

I think you need to interview a lot of people for the position you are trying to fill.

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com