In his book, The 22 Non-Negotiable Laws of Wellness, author Greg Anderson wrote, "Let us be about setting high standards for life, love, creativity, and wisdom. If our expectations in these areas are low, we are not likely to experience wellness. Setting high standards makes every day and every decade worth looking forward to."

He also reminded us that, "When we change our perception we gain control. The stress becomes a challenge, not a threat. When we commit to action, to actually doing something rather than feeling trapped by events, the stress in our life becomes manageable."

There are times when it's easy to feel overwhelmed and trapped by situations that we'd rather not face. These situations might even be extremely unfair.

It's easy to focus on how terribly unfair someone might have treated us. It makes sense to believe that unfair things should not be happening. Simply pretending that a problem doesn't exist is much easier than dealing with it directly. However, stress builds, the situation doesn't change, and it might grow worse.

In fact, focusing on the way things should be instead of dealing with the way they are can lead to disaster, both physically and emotionally.

Winners set high standards for dealing with problems. They set rules for what they will accept and expect from themselves and others. They realize that it won't work to stay on a road of denial, and it won't work to lash out against unfair situations by resisting what is true. They have a much more workable plan.

Indeed, winners keep a positive outlook. However, they know that they must do much more than simply think in a positive way. They mobilize resources and prompt new solutions. Self-confidence and courage allow them to take responsibility for situations, and take well-planned problem-solving actions.

When a solution is not possible, they take valuable lessons from the event. They know there is tremendous life-time value in all experiences.

Ask yourself: What are my standards for dealing with problems? What are my boundaries for the behaviors, attitudes, and actions I will accept from myself and others? What are the highest standards that I will expect myself to live by at all times in each important area of my life?

Steve Brunkhorst

Steve Brunkhorst has helped hundreds of children and adults to overcome challenges, and reach their highest potential. After completing graduate school, he built a successful private practice as a therapist, rehabilitation consultant, and workshop leader, providing services for companies and individuals throughout Missouri.

Steve is also an accomplished photographer and widely published author. His inspirational and motivational articles and stories have appeared in many ezines as well as print magazines and journals. His love for people, nature, and adventure has led him to travel widely across North America, photographing the natural world and its inhabitants. When traveling, Steve captures his experiences in poems, pictures, and stories.

Today, Steve is a professional life success coach and the editor of Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration, a popular ezine bringing stories, motivational nuggets, and inspirational thoughts to help readers achieve more in their careers and personal lives. You can find many helpful achievement resources and contact Steve by visiting his website.